Imagine Dating

"At our dating agency we know that people are complex and it takes time to get to know them."

First Dates. Tips and suggestions

Our dating service is all about finding somone who you will connect with, here is some advice for you to take it that step further.

Arranging the date

Guys, when you make the phone call to arrange the first date don't spend hours on the phone. You will be very tempted to chat and intrigued to find out more about the person you are going to meet but leave that for the date. Don't be rude or abrupt but make it short and then you will have a lot to talk about when you meet face to face.

Where to go

Meet for a drink at first and then you can decide whether you would like to go for lunch or dinner. It is always a good idea to think of something that lasts a fixed time like two or three hours. It gives you enough time to know whether you would like to meet each other again but also gives you a "Get out of jail card" if things are not going as well as you want. Don't go to the movies, a two hour film will not give you much time to get to know the person on a three hour date.

What to wear

On your first date you are still selling yourself. You need to feel comfortable but also you need to feel good. If you feel good about yourself, you will project this to who ever you are meeting. Present yourself in the best possible light. It needn't be too sexy but it should be clean, pressed and fit well. Something new is always good as it makes you feel special. Don't get all worked up about it though. You are going to meet someone who is highly likely to be interested in you, (we have seen to that). They already think you are attractive, if you look your best they will be even more impressed.

Be positive

Part of our philosophy at our dating agency is positivity, don't dwell on the past and start talking about past relationships; it is a mire that can bring down the energy levels of both parties. You are there to have fun and move forward. Make sure you listen with genuine interest to what the other person has to say, you are there after all, to find out if you like each other, so no matter how eager you are to impress, don't interrupt or use the time to think what you're going to say next. Be yourself, ask questions; with our dating service at imagine, you will already have the advantage of knowing that it is highly likely that you will know you are meeting someone you are compatible with, so relax and enjoy the time.

Be prepared

Conversations between people who don't really know each other will ebb and flow, start and stutter as you find common ground. It is always a good idea to prepare your conversation just in case that little well of awkward silence butts in. No doubt there will be no need to use it but you will feel better knowing you have that safety net to fall back on.

So for example, if you are going to lunch there will be opportunities to talk about food and wine. Try and find out more about the person you are meeting, give and take. Find out what they have tried or not tried. What kind of food they like. This might then open up opportunities to talk about places, where they have gone, what are they doing for their holidays, which places they liked the best. You can then head towards arranging a second date if you feel things are going well. Talk about films, if they have been to the movies recently, is there anything they would like to see. This will open a window for another meeting.

It's unlikely you will have to rely on your prepared conversation but it will give you confidence to know you have something up your sleeve.

No preconceptions

Don't expect fireworks and a big band to start playing when you meet for the first time. That only happens in Hollywood. Don't think about what things will be like months from now rather think about what you can do together on your next date. People are complex and it takes time to get to know them. You can trust that the process you have gone through with our dating agency, IMAGINE, means there's every chance you will get on very well with the person you are meeting. Just be yourself, relax and enjoy the moment. Whether that develops into a deeper friendship or more, only time will tell.

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